No one's life is perfect. They may want you to believe that they are and they may show you a picture perfect image on social media or in public or when they talk to you on the phone. They make every conversation with laughter and fill every void with exclamations of how great this is or how wonderful that person is, so on and so forth. They may want you to believe that it is all smooth sailing but that is simply not the reality for most people. For most of us. At least not all the time.
You see, real people have real problems. I'm not saying that those real problems are gargantuan and overwhelming to the point of causing us to freeze in our tracks, quit on ourselves, or spiral into debilitating depression. There are indeed those problems and some of us do face them and force ourselves to get up and get dressed and get moving every day, but, by and large, the problems are more - regular.
On any given day, husbands and wives are arguing, parents are exasperated over their children, supervisors are rubbing their temples over their subordinates, subordinates are griping about their supervisors, entrepreneurs are freezing in their tracks, friends are attributing characteristics to their friends that just aren't so, lies or being spewed, fears are being entertained, budgets are being stretched to the limit, and the list goes on and on. On any given day, those with the perfect teeth and the perfect hair and the picture perfect families are hiding their struggles in hopes that their friends and families won't be disappointed in them or judge them or gloat over the fact that they are indeed…..human.
But the truth is, if we can just get ourselves to a place of supporting one another, we could all have the freedom to be human. We could open up to one another about our struggles and ask for prayer and support. We could alleviate some of the stress associated with these daily life stressors by NOT swallowing them down and lathering makeup on them and outright lying about everything being okay.
I'm struggling with two really huge monsters in my life right now. I've opened up about them to my friends and family and prayer warriors and I posted a bit about them here and on other platforms. By no means do I feel the need to go into ridiculous detail in order to garner sympathy points but I strive to be transparent about the fact then my life is far from perfect. I want to live a life of honesty and give other people hope that, if they are going through similar things, there are indeed ways to cope as well as the possibility of a successful resolution. I share because it's a great reminder that I'm not alone. I share because I, too, need to hear from people who have blazed this trail and made it through successfully and can breathe life and hope into me.
So, as you retake that selfie for the 57th time, and edit your Tweet to sound perfectly witty, or only check in online when you are at a lavish location, think about those who need to hear what you are going through because it could give them just the hope they need to hold on. Your struggles and your battles and your journey are far more valuable than that expensive gift you got or that extravagant dress you found (don't get me wrong - if you are showing me that there are rags to riches stories or that I can believe and hope beyond my dire financial straits, please, post with a purpose and share your life in a way that is real and adds value).
Hmm, okay. That's all I've got. I'm gonna go to work and pray that my chronic pain let's up enough to have a productive day and the ability to make it to all of my engagements. I'm gonna believe that the pup won't poop in her house and roll in it like she did yesterday, for some reason. I'm going to read some books and listen to some articles about a relationship I'm struggling with and then do my utmost on my end to repair it. I'm gonna dig into my business and make the time to do what I need to do to meet with success - because it's childish and unreasonable to believe that anything is just going to be handed to me. I’m going to help others find the financial independence I am developing and celebrate their freedom. And I'm going to praise the Lord for my family, or my friends who have become family, for all of the blessings He showers upon me, for the things I have that I don't deserve, and for everything in store for me if I'm faithful and believe.
I am Christian Straightedge Christ follower, an Army Brat, an ex-milso, founder and CEO of FitnessAnyaMind, a sofa CEO, a nomad, a fur baby mom, and a mindset builder. I enjoy nature, reading, music, cooking, and taking care of those whom I love.